there any prerequisites to marriage? Does everything just work
its way out, or should we plan for it?
Centurion Press - Posted Thursday, January 02, 2003
master builders are reminded constantly during their
training, on the importance of planning
and preparation. They understand well that a solid foundation,
and a firm structure are the results of adhering to the dictates of
those standards. The standards which suggest that certain
elements are inevitable to the success of a building project.
For example, a good site/land, quality material, well experience
workers and a projected budget that will completely finance the
Jesus Christ endorses the planning and preparation approach by
suggesting the following.
28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
29 Lest haply, after he hath laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all that behold it begin to mock him,
30 Saying, This man began to build, and was not able to finish.
Friends, if we fail to plan, then we plan to fail. We seem to
put more planning and preparation in the baking of a cake than we do
in getting married. It seem as if we do not understand that
their are bitter consequences to marriage blunders. The fact is, marriage has eternal consequences.
It is an institution that will cause heaven or hell to be our
inheritance. As with the builder, in respect to the Bible, others
looking on will mock and say, "This couple began to build and was
not able to finish" if the marriage goes sour. We all know
well that there are no guarantees in life.
However, if we implement God's standard, we will build on a sure
foundation. You might have asked yourself the question, "what
are those standards. What do
one need to know. How does someone plan for marriage. What kind of preparation is necessary for a successful
marriage.?" Those are good questions and the answers are
found in God's word. Let us look at some of the crucial
ingredients that promotes a functional marriage.
God performs the first marriage
God the father officiated over the first marriage. He pronounced
the first couple that every lived, man and wife. Let us look at
how it all happened.
To get the full understanding we will go through the above text verse
18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
God had his plan from the beginning to
make man (Genesis 1:27). He went a little further and explained
what man meant. He said man = male + female. In Genesis
chapter one, the Bible said that God created man (male + female) on
the sixth day, but it did not say in what order or what section of the
day each was created. He created woman last so that the man would genuinely
appreciate the woman. Let us see how He did that.
19 And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
The Lord included Adam in His creation
afforded him the exalted privilege of helping to complete creation by
naming the animals. Adam helped to get the garden home ready.
There was a reason for that. Remember, Eve was not created yet.
We are still in the sixth day. The important lesson for us to
learn, is that, Adam as a man, was to prepare for the woman. It
is a man's responsibility as providers, to get the home ready.
In addition, God knew that Adam would need a
help meet, but he wanted Adam to desire one. He wanted
him to appreciate, love, honor and cherish her when she is
given. He wanted him to realize the value of woman. So,
He allowed him to experience a few things.
20 And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
As a result of naming the
animals and realizing that every animal had a like kind, it aroused a
desire in Adam for a companion. He wanted someone like
him. Someone that he could share his life with. But he was
not going to get one without a price. It was going to cost Adam
something. But why????? We will see shortly....
21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
God performed the first operation and
took a rib from Adam. The cost. Why did God had to take
something from Adam? He who formed the world from nothing!!!
And why a rib? Read on...
22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Adam was fully aware of
what happened. He knew that God took his rib and made Eve.
God wanted it that way, Why? Well, when God brought Eve
to Adam, he exclaimed, "This is
now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called
woman for she was taken from man." Adam had to make a
sacrifice. Adam wanted a woman, but it was going to cost him
something. Presently, the men of today seem to always want
something for nothing. That is why they cannot truly appreciate
the woman when she comes. In addition, the Lord want men to
understand that when a man leaves his mother and father and cleaves
unto his wife, they are no longer twain, but truly one flesh. That
situation was establish in Adam as a perpetual covenant
relationship between marriage couples. Brothers, that woman is
truly your flesh and borne. Will a man hurt his own flesh?
She is not an extension, she is, your flesh, and blood. It is
extremely important for both party to understand that fact.
Moreover, God wanted Adam/man to appreciate, respect, protect, honor
and cherish woman. He wanted that fact to crystallize in the
mind of every man that the woman did not appear from thin air.
Consider where the borne was taken from. It was not taken from
under Adams feet, suggesting, that a man should not walk on/over
woman. It was taken from his side, close to his heart, for that is where
man should keep woman
at all times.
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.
So, woman was the crowning act of
creation. She was created last. Also, on the sixth day,
just before running over in to the seventh, God present the first couple as
man and wife. Thus performing the first marriage.
Let us recap. We learned that man is suppose to prepare the home
first and understand the value and blessings of a woman.
However, we have just scratched the surface. Therefore, let us
examine the spiritual, physical and emotional preparation of both
gender for marriage. Before we do that, let us consider all the
common issues with marriage. For example, the myths, and the
common problems of marriage.
The myths and common problems of marriage
The problems begins with man and it can only end with man. The
burden of responsibility and accountability rest with man. Woman
are simply rebelling to the injustice they have been receiving at the hand of
man. What is the cause of the injustice? Ignorance!!! Man
have been playing the fool too long and it is high time for them to
step up to the plate and assume their rightful place in society.
What place is that? We will find out soon.
We will examine some of the myths and common problems of marriage. Let us
look at the myth of role less marriage.
myth of role less marriage
leadership of the devil, this perverted world which we live in, is
campaigning to reconstruct the genders. They want to eliminate
the idea of gender roles. Is that a good idea? Let us find
In the beginning God
made man. However, God went a little further in explaining that
He made them male and female. Friends, maleness means something
and femaleness means something. The genders were not placed here
to imitate each other. On the other hand, our functions were designed to complement each other. Some things
are naturally done better by a woman and vise versa. A woman is
a natural nurturer. A man will never function well in that
capacity, for that is not his role as a man. Then why is that some
woman want their husbands to take care of the kids while they go off
to work. Proverbs 6:6 says, "Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise:"
In other words, consult nature. When we go against order, chaos
is the result. The norm, because of situation, might be that the
woman have to go out and work and the man stay at home. Problems
are destined to surface in that model. We need to look away from
the dysfunctional examples of this misguided society and establish a
new normality. A model that is founded upon the word of God.
"Roles are like the keel of a ship that lies hidden under cold, dark water, out of sight, out of
mind. Yet try sailing without one!
Would you like to be apart of a system where everyone had to run the company, oversees the school, and management the government."
(Rocking the roles) Think about that!!! Only when we function in our
natural roles will we experience a smooth running marriage
relationship. A marriage couple should have defined roles.
As they are different physically and emotionally, those distinctions
should dictate there roles. Genesis 3:23
"Therefore the LORD God sent him forth from the garden of Eden, to till the ground from whence he was taken."
God did not command Eve to till the
ground, He told Adam. Man, by nature is a provider. There
should be something in his heart like a king to provider, a warrior to
protect, a mentor to teach and like a friend to connect. God,
from the beginning, told man to get out the house and work.
On the other hand, the woman is the nurturer, the keeper of the
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Women are the keepers/managers of the
home. In today's society, we have it backwards. The career
women seem to get all the respect. Where respect is due, it
should be given. However, if our kids were not neglected as they
are, then just "maybe" we would have less, rapist,
murderers, drug dealers, and just less menaces in our society. Today's
kids are products of television (corrupted Hollywood), violent video
games, and objectionable music. The home front is left
unprotected, because mommy and daddy are busy working. Being a
mother and a wife is an exalted privilege, and high calling.
Mothers are the ones that basically train the leaders in our
society. What kind of respect and honor would you attach to such
a contribution or to that "career."
Most people think that house wives are boring and just have nothing to
do. They are not industrious and basically not as intelligent
and reputable as career woman. Well, the Lord has news for all
such people. Let us examine what a house wife looks like in the
every day responsibilities of life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
A house wife adds to the income of
the home if needs be, by
making and selling fine linen (she has a trade, she is educated), she is full of
wisdom, she is not idle, strength and honor are her clothing, she
helps the poor, she buy and sell property, she goes food shopping for
the family, she cooks (she takes care of the food needs), her children
calls her blessed, her husband as well, and he praise her as
well. Now, how do you view house wives? I believe house
wife holds a higher office than that of the president. She is
the one that trains future presidents. The occupation of a house
wife is an exalted position. House wives, your friends that are
doctors, lawyers, investors and so on, has nothing over you.
Don't act as if you are better, but at the same time, you have no
reason to feel inferior.
There should be cross training as well, so that the family will be
independent of every situation. Roles might be reversed for
isolated incidents, therefore, both should be able to pick up where
the other left off, if possible. Situations, like, sickness,
injuries, death, absence, etc...
Common problems!!! The traditional family was famous for
absentee fathers, devalued woman and mutual tolerance (just living
together for the sake of the kids). Men were kings and the
family members their subjects. No wonder woman are rebelling
against the traditional family of the 60's and 70's. Roles and
submission was the order of the day. But roles and submission
was not the problem. The problem was found in the ignorance of
The Bible says in Romans 1:28, "And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;"
Man was not looking to God to get an ennobling knowledge that would encourage him to cherish and appreciate his wife. Without God's
guidance, man became a lording ruler, a dictator. "Presently, the world sees roles as confining. Roles put people into a box. Roles limits choices. Roles keep woman “in their place.”"
(Rocking the roles) Any talk of roles brings ugly images of oppression that women want to break away from. Roles are now considered as a chauvinistic way of looking at relationships.
Therefore, liberation is on the lips of every woman, young and old.
But the question is, liberated from what? Is it liberation from a system that oppressed women for years, liberation from the unfair pay scale, from corporate structures that hinders upward mobility for women or is it liberation from Gods
word? Friends, ignorance is our greatest enemy. The
solution is the cultivation of the intellect, the renewing of our
minds. Going against God's words, doing what pleases us, is not
Some of us have strayed from the principles of God words. The
liberated women, or those who do not understand, are claiming the
right to keeping their last name. Comments like, "Why do I
have to change my name. Or, why can't he be called by my
last name," seems to be echoing throughout this modern
society. Do we understand what we are asking for? Well,
let us look at what is going on. The devil wants to separate us
from God. He wants to distort every
example and every object lesson whereby we can understand how three
can be one, and how every man becomes one in Christ.
1 Corinthians 11:3
But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
Woman was created from man. Adam's identification was
"man." He shared the name that he was called by, thus
pronouncing Eve "Wo-man." He could have called her
anything else, but it suggest a oneness. God want us to
understand the importance of oneness, for it has eternal
implications. Therefore, the marriage relationship was used as
an example. If two can become one, then it is not too hard
envision three in one. The Chin's family, though five members,
are one under the umbrella of the name Chin.
Women are called by the name of their husbands, their head, as men and
all mankind will be called by the name of their head, Christ. In
the parable of the 10 virgins, Christ the bridegroom cometh to marry
His bride, the church. Revelation 12:17 tells us that a new name
will be given. Are we going to reject His name? Will we
try to hyphenate His name with ours? Remember friends, self and
Christ cannot co-exist. Self has to die and Christ must rule
supreme in our lives. Submission if the key. If Christ did
not submit to his head, God the father, then were would we be today?
In the garden when his sweat became as drops of blood He said,
"Not as I will, but let thy will be done." If we do
not abide now, we will never abide then. If we do not submit to
the will of God now, we will not submit then.
And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.
Like the voice of thunder echoing through out this world, the painful
words will be heard, "Too late,..... too late,..... too
late......." When the scenes of the close of earth's
history flashes before the eyes of men, confirming the authenticity of
God's by the second return of Jesus Christ as Lord of Lord's and King
of King's, men at that point will desire His name to take away their
reproach. But it will be too late. Changing the way how
God has lead in the past is not the solution of the current social
mess of today. The renewing of our minds is the key.
Many in the name of Christianity have drifted so far away from God
that, for them, marriage is not possible without a pre-nuptial agreement
and a separate bank accounts. Where is the oneness in that
arrangement. Plans are made for the end, before they
begin. Friends, love cannot be made perfect in fear.
1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
Why would anyone marry someone that they cannot trust? If there
are doubts, why get married? It is just like having an abortion,
it stays with you for ever. Many will reason and say,
"after it is all over with, you will forget it." Don't
believe that friends. We are humans. It lingers, and you
will tormented for the rest of your life. How can two experience
genuine, perfect love; how can two be one, when both are
withholding. Our advice is to consider the action of Joseph and
Lot, and run never looking back. We would not marry a couple
that advocates a pre-nuptial agreement or separate bank
accounts. Their value system is perverted. They obviously
place more value on things than they do on themselves. They will
give themselves to each other. They will share a bed and have
sexual relations, but they will not share their possessions.
Those individual is materialistic. Such request are the results
of a reprobate mind, or a seriously confused individual. Many
explanations are given why such agreements are necessary, but it all
boils down to disobedience to God's words, unbelief and lack of
faith. Wait on the Lord, friends, and he will bring that God
fearing individual in your path.
These admonitions are for the family of believers, Christians.
The problems of marriage are not restricted to a particular
denomination, but to all Christendom. We need come out of
denial, those that are in denial, and address the problems of the
Christian churches and the world. How? By speaking out
against the issues in no uncertain tones. The problems have been
perpetuating generation after generation because of the silence of the
church. The church is at fault, for where Christ is presented,
lives are changed. The hour is late, but never too late for a
decided change for truth. Accept Biblical councils friends, for
rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and
idolatry (1 Samuel 15:23).
Men, a few suggestions are listed below that should serve
to diffuse the current social mess. Women, councils are given
for you as well.
Problem Solution Suggestions
Core responsibilities of the husband
Let us start with the problem, men. 1 Corinthians 3:11
says, "The head of the woman is the man." Look at
Ephesians 5:23 as well. Men understands headship well. They
want to be the head, but what does that mean? What kind of head
should he be? Consider what Jesus has to say in Luke 22:26,
"but he that is greatest among you, let him be as the younger; and he that is chief, as he that doth serve."
Men, from the beginning, the Lord wanted us to be servant
leaders. The Bible uses words like responsibility, not
privilege; service, not to be served; support, and not superiority. (Rocking the roles)
What does head mean? Ephesians 5:23-30 defines "head" as
life giving, protector, provider, lover, responsible for and developer.
Whenever the word “head” is used, it applies leadership. The
question is, what kind of leader? Godly leaders are men who understand
the word of God. They understand it is not about rank where his wife is
concerned, but responsibility. They understand it is about sacrificing all for
the family, and not selfishness. A servant leader understands
that it is about duty and not dominion. They understand that
headship is a calling to
empower another human being. Empowering the wife, empowering the
family. There is a growing cynicism among women about men altogether, and much less
trust because most of the men of this world are not exhibiting those
qualities. Simple because they are not servant leaders
and they do not understand their core responsibilities.
Let’s get more specific, more practical. Let us look at what a
servant leader look like in the everyday, ordinary situations of married life.
Consider the following:
What does a servant leader looks like?
Men, what does every woman need to succeed?
- Decision Making. He always collaborate with his wife – he seek the wisdom of his wife.
- Understand his wife’s
needs. 1 peter 3:7 He does his research and read about
her. He is in tune with her feminine needs – servant does not mind if she cries –
he understands that she likes different things.
- Conflict:-- He does not get defensive – does not have a win/lose perspective on life. Will say sorry when he is wrong.
- Strengths and weaknesses: He does not point out flaws and failures nor criticize. He builds up rather than tear down.
- Power: He does not manipulates – does not intimidates physically. He faces his own weakness. He confides and ask for her help.
- Household chores: The lording leader does not do dishes, cook, cleans, or take out the trash – The king does nothing other than take home the money. The servant leader is totally the opposite.
- Accepts spiritual
responsibility: Calls family together for worship. He uses the home as a training ground. He teaches the family
about Jesus Christ.
(Rocking the Roles)
Men, if you are seriously considering
marriage, if you would like to have a functional one, then it would
be wise to employ the above principles in your life before
marriage. Since it take two to tango, let us look at a few
suggested preparatory steps that a woman should take before entering
- Companionship: Much of her identity in marriage and sense of worth come from how well she relates to her husband. (they might not admit this but it is true).
The attention given in courtship is equally needed in
marriage as well.
- Security: Protector and provider. It is natural for a woman to look to a
man for security – not the other way around. If a
man cannot provide for a family, he should remove marriage
from his mind. Every man need to know how he is going
to take care of his family before getting married.
- Significance: The woman is a nurturer, a friend, a soul-worker. The only one that can appreciate her unique contribution is
the husband. If he don’t praise and exalt her, who will? Who else knows and values what
a wife does during the day, but the husband. Men, we
must show recognition & appreciation.
- Emotional Responsiveness: A womans world is one of deep feelings.
The natural response of a man is to fix their problems. Most of the time they only want
their significant other to just listen. When a man does not object to or argue with a woman’s feeling, but instead accepts and confirms their validity and listens with empathy as she explores those feelings, a woman will feel truly
loved. (Rocking the Roles)
What every woman should know
Liberation seem to be a major factor that hinders the formation of a
happy home. Seeking to achieve equal rights and status is
necessary in our society. Actually, equal rights and status
should just exist automatically for every man. However, during the
process of seeking liberation, the cultivation of home skills seems to
be neglected. Every woman should go to college and secure a
profession that is marketable. The sky is the limit where scholastic
eminence is concerned. However, the problem is that, many of
these professional woman are shamefully ignorant to the practical
duties of home life which are essential towards the establishment of a
happy family. Every woman should have a good knowledge of the
1. Every woman should know how to prepare palatable foods.
Healing foods, in other words. Foods that will, repair, prevent
diseases and promote health.
2. Every prospective wife and mother should have a knowledge of
the best method to treat diseases. She should have a good
knowledge of what promotes health, the workings of the body and proper
hygiene. This would prevent her from taking her kids to the
doctor for every simple complaint.
3. She should be skilled in the art or keeping the home, farming
and sewing. The family should be independent of every
situation. We have a more sure prophecy, because it comes from
the word of God. We know that the time will come, when those who
are standing on God's side will not be able to buy or sell. Most
of us choose not to think about these things, and as a result, we are
not preparing for the future. Why? I guess we really
do not believe it.
What does every man need to succeed?
I woman want to hear her husband say, "honey, I love
you." But what a man desires most is respect and
admiration. A man wants a woman that will support him and
believe in him. Supporting his work is a major core need as
well. A woman just need to show interest to encourage and
energize him. Public support is a necessity as well.
Embarrassing a man in public is a sure way to cause a relationship to
go sour. As it is important for a man to meet the needs of a
woman, it is equally important for a woman to meet the needs of a man.
If both parties would take the following suggestions seriously.
If both parties prepare themselves according to the suggestion and
function within the establish gender role, then marriage can be a
little heaven on earth.
Friend, if you ask all those who locked into a dysfunctional marriage
and all the divorcees if God told them to marry that man or that
woman, you will get the same response, NO. They would generally
hold their heads down, and with the breath of regret they will say
no. People have a hard time living with themselves, much less
living with someone else. It takes a mountain top experience,
for two to become one harmoniously. If God is not in the vessel
the ship will not sail, it will not leave port. Therefore, the
most important factor to consider is, God's blessings. Whatever
God joins together, no man puts asunder. He is the glue that
keeps two people together. But because of disobedience and self
trust, we tend to take matters in our own hands, forsaking the
principles and protocol of God, thus accepting the blessings of
man. Let us look at the principles outline in the example of
Isaac and Rebekah so that we can get acquainted with God's
Wisdom and Experience of Parents: Abraham realized that
it was time to find a wife for Isaac. Notice friends, marriage
was a family event in every stage, in those days. A young woman
or a young man, would not run off and get married without their
parents guidance and consent. Such a one would be considered
foolish and rebellious. In those days, the wisdom and experience
of parents was capitalized upon. If the young people of this age
would just consult their parents, get them involved, their would be
less heartaches and problems in marriage. However, if the parent
is steering you away from the principles of God, then it is better to
please God than man.
Unequally Yoked: God advised the Israelites not to marry a woman of another
tribe, else they will reap the bitter consequences of being unequally
yoked. Abraham faithfully carried
out that command by instructing his servant to go unto his kindred,
and find a wife in the land of his fathers (verse 34). Abraham
understood that two will
never walk together harmoniously unless they agree. Many of us
are convicted on that point, but because of our weak will, lack of
faith and specific situations in life, we often choose to walk in
darkness rather than light. I believe that many of us love the
Lord and is endeavoring to make the right the decisions, but those
thin threads around our hearts, those desires that so many of us
cherish, which binds us to the world, are clouding our judgment.
1 Kings 3:3 says, "Solomon loved the Lord." Yet in 1
Kings 11:1 the Bible also says, "But Solomon loved many strange
women." Those who come in the church, but did not totally
separate themselves from the world, will find and attach themselves to
the world in the church. Yes, friends, the world has creped into
the church and we do not have to look too hard to find it in the
church. Remember, two cannot walk unless they agree. Love
not the world nor the things that are in the world. Do not allow
the lust of the flesh and the love of money to corrupt you. He
might be handsome, she might be pretty, but if you know that the
qualities that the Lord has exposed you to are not met in that
individual, wait. Don't be like Samson. The Lord was getting
ready to use him in a mighty way, but because he was flirting with the
woman of the world, or those in the church that are willing to give up
their worldly pleasures, the devil was able to disgraced and abused
him. Again, the councils of parents is a blessing. Let us
look at what they told him in Judges 14:3 "Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for me; for she pleaseth me well."
Friends, be aware of woman/man and money. Beware of those that
are not circumcised in heart. How do you know if they are, their
actions will show.
Just like Abraham, Samson's parents was telling him to find someone
that share the same beliefs, but he loved the flesh and the things of
this world, more than the councils of God. Many of us today are
saying, "She/He pleaseth me well." The physical seem
to be all that matters. But God is saying to us today, look at
the bitter consequences of Samson's actions. He lost his strength,
eyesight (physical and spiritual) and eventually his life. Life
eternal is dependent upon the chooses that we make. We may not
get a second change like Samson. We might not see the need to
repent of our sins like Samson did, but as always, prevention is
better than cure. Wait on the Lord, friends. Don't you
ever settle. In God's time He will bless you if you are
Prayer: The servant prayed and solicited the help of
God. In verse 15, the Bible said, "And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder."
If we do not pray that the Lord send us the right man or woman, we
will definitely run into problems. But if we pray, if we ask, if
we seek, if we knock, the Lord will answer. Most of us pray for
a job, a car, a house, money for tuition and so on, then why not pray
for that which can determine our eternal inheritance when we get it,
which is a wife or husband. If you use to pray twice a day,
allow yourself to remain in a state of prayer always. It is that
Faith: To live by faith and not by sight, is considered
the fools doctrine. Some will agree and embrace that scripture,
but when "push come to shove" it is denied as Peter denied
Christ. It is too hard to live by faith, is the confession of
many. Indeed, it is hard. Will I find faith when I return,
is the question Christ is asking every man? Rebekah exercised an
enormous amount of faith by leaving with Abraham's servant whom she
had never met before. She had never met Isaac before, she did
not know what he looked like, nor did she know anything of his
personality. It was not a simple thing to do regardless of the
times, for her mother and brother did not want her to leave right
away. Considering the times we are living in today, it would not
be wise to do that. However, the Lord does work in mysterious
ways. Needless to say, Rebekah went with the servant (verse 55 -
58). It took faith on Isaac's part as well, for he accepted her
and took her to be his wife.
Financial Security: Isaac was financially secure and was
able to take care of his wife. Marriage should be stricken from
the mind of every man that is not able to take care of his wife
Friend, as you read Genesis 24, there are many more principles
contained therein for the establishment of a happy home. Wait, I
say, on the Lord.